But, considering all that is occurring, the drinking, the bipolar behavior with no meds, the probably affair, the toll this is taking on the you and the family. Would you want to file for a separation.
I probably have it all wrong and I know the experts on here will have better insight then I but this looks like it is just going to continue to spiral downward.
Priorities- you and the kids. I know separation is like abandoning you wife when she is in crisis but maybe it would be the kick in the butt to get her to take some positive action. As long as you are with her she can blame all her problems on you.
You could word it in a way as to say you would love to stay married but not with these conditions.
Yes, I'm considering filing, and I already saw a lawyer. I think our problems have been very hidden from everyone outside the M. It's only now dawning on me that D17 and S13 are aware of the problems.
Originally Posted By: june72
As a child I was actually relieved when my mother kicked my dad out of the house. It just made for a more relaxing atmosphere and not dreading what would happen next.
I think both my kids are still very attached to M, although they are angry with her. She's has been a devoted mother excluding issues with her BPD(which includes the drinking). I guess part of my problem is that I don't really know how to tell how severe this is. I hope the alanon meeting will give me more perspective. maybe I'm still in denial about all this.
Originally Posted By: june72
Status quo is not an option here.
Just my 2 cents.....
Yes, I can't see this continuing. I've got a little time I think. W leaves for other side of the country in a week, and will be gone for all of thanksgiving week. Me and the kids will have thanksgiving to ourselves. I can fit in a few alanon meetings, and talk to the lawyer again about my options.
thank you so much for your 2 cents.
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