The point I'm making (in my favourite it's all-about-me style) is that regardless of how much you know you have to "detach" it's hard, and it doesn't happen by osmosis. We have to make it happen.
I also know that it's terrifying to detach - sometimes the "attachment" we have to that old marriage feels like the only thing we've got left.
And in a way, that's kind of sick. Holding onto something that is dead is worse than Zombies.
But it SURE is hard not to be a people pleaser.
I think what I learned to day is to just say 'no' first.
I can always change my mind later.
But I was clearly trying to please her. Sacrificing myself. Stupid.
Quote:
One day you wake up and the huge gaping hole you thought there was in your life is a thin line of light reminding you that the difficulties of these years has made you into the man you are ... and you wouldn't have it any other way.
