K Tread lightly because you may find what you're looking for. I must confess, I snooped yesterday and it hurts like he!!. I found a letter to OM #3. It was so puppy dog teenager bullsh it. If it wasn't my wife it would have been pretty funny.
The guy is married with 5 kids, roughly 15 years older than her. They've known each other for 5 weeks and she's saying how her luck is so bad because she found her perfect match but he's married. That she doesn't want to complicate his so she's "going to un-hitch my wagon from this horse and let him go." Yeah don't think that's actually happened.
So what I'm saying is you may find what you're looking for, but you may wish you didn't.
Please keep in mind I'm not saying your h is up to anything. I'm just trying to show you what may happen if you push or look for answers to those questions.