Yeah, she called back. I told her that I didn't want to go from her 'hardly seeing him' to a scheduled visit like he was 'shared custody'. Explained that I spoke to several people and that it will just be too confusing if he spends too much time split between homes. And I also said I'm just not comfortable with the situation and I don't have to explain myself.
I also said that I wasn't comfortable with her coming over in the morning to drop him off, knowing that she might choose to come to the door to see D18 which I see as a violation of my boundaries. This is my home and I don't want her in it.
Her response, 'Well D18 lives there too so you have to expect that I will come and see her too'.
I said that may be true, but I am not comfortable with her coming by 3 days a week with that being the potential outcome. She got angry and said "So I can't see him at all then?"
I said "No, I just am not comfortable going from you hardly seeing him to now it's a scheduled visitation. You can certainly see him 1-2 times a week if you let me know in advance. I'm just not going to make it a regular schedule like visitation is"
I told her I would drop him off tonight when I drop off D14 since I had already agreed to it.
You're right. Give her an inch and she takes a mile.
This stuff messes with my head. Too much people pleasing but as has been said, I HAVE to protect my heart. I have to.
