MG, Been Lurking. Was originally going to suggest Googling "Symptoms/evidence spouse is cheating" On virtually every list, towards the top of the list is: "Your gut feeling/instinct".
Bu since that seems to be the consensus now, let me offer this that I found. I know little about it, though have read through another source that what the site says is true: It works AND it may become illegal in some states this year. So, get yours today! (if you're so inclined).