Sad to be here

[Norm914]

Came to a realization that gave me some feeling of control over my sitch.

W’s family is very much “save the marriage”. They wouldn’t hate or disown her if she divorced. But they are in principle on my side. And they know I want to save my marriage. Pressure on W.

Same with my mom and sisters. And W is very close to my mom (“she’s like my own mother”). W values that relationship and wouldn’t do anything to jeopardize it.

Our friends: nobody wants to see a D happen and everyone knows I want to save my marriage.

Finally, W loves our business and she cannot divorce me of that. My name is on the LLC and there is nothing she can do about that. She needs to get along with me.

So, in terms of actually divorcing me, what are W’s options?

Consensual divorce. Not gonna happen. I will not enable a divorce and she knows it.

Hire a lawyer, file against me and have me served. Not gonna happen. That is far too harsh a move. It would harm her relationship with my mom and W still has to face me in the business every day. I could make it hell for her and she knows it.

Seems she’s fresh out of options. Her only option is to wait me out – wait until I’m so sick of limboland that I agree to a D.

Time is on my side.