Is this the end of my marriage?

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I did do no contact with her for about 2 weeks. It was for me and I did not care if she got mad or hurt. I never told her I was going dark, why should I? She left me, cheated on me, so I figured if I did not want to talk to her for a while it was my right

Did you do this after or before the A ended? I assume you just stop responding to texts, calls etc.? How often did she speak to you before you stopped contact and did she ever say that she was checking in to see if you were okay?

But nothing changed for her, I did not expect it to change anything.

What did you mean nothing changed for her? Did the no contact not actually affect her, the OM or the A?

I just wanted time to be me and not worry about what to say or if I had said something wrong.

This is just what I want. Some time and space to let the emotions come out and deal with them properly no matter how long it takes.

I think that your wife will be more forgiving if you just stop talking to her then if you give her your reasons and intentions in a note and make a big production out of it.

My W complained about manipulation towards the end (which she was right about but it was subconcsious and I admitted it and have dealt with it - it was through fear basically!).

See this has given me food for thought. Before I was going to send the letter about no contact. Now maybe it would be better to just stop contact without saying anything. That way it won't be a grand gesture or manipulative or seen to be 'seeking attention'. It would just be what I wanted to do. She did what she wanted to do.

I don't want people to think I'm chopping and changing again, I'm just thinking out loud.

Trust me; she may not look confused today or tomorrow. But one day she will be confused. Until that day happens just do not do anything that will hurt your relationship as it stands. GAL, and wait, that is all you can do.

Having no contact would also help that as I could properly detach and GAL.

If you love her you will let her do that. If she loves you she will *probably* figure that out at some point.

As many people have said though, if she does figure it out (and nobody who has spoken to me has said it would last) will I still be here to take her back!