Well, another intensive counseling day. I feel good though.

I met with my pastor for an hour and a half, then with my IC for another hour over lunch.

He clarified what he said when he said "you need to fall out of love with her" last week. He did indeed mean detatch.

Today, i am confident. I have a meeting tonight and my W is going to watch the kids while I am gone. This is my last night at home for over a week (until the Friday after T-day). So, i havea lot of time to GAL.

I expect to get my papers tonight. I already know how to to respond. Thanks, leave them on the table, I will look at them later. I am not going to ruin my last night with the kids being depressed seeing my W's signature on divorce papers. I can do that away from home tomorrow.

I also need to make sure that everything she filed is in agreement with what we talked about with the mediator. I also need to make sure she didn't get an attorney, we agreed to not having attorney's and using the mediator.

Overall, I feel okay. I am sad, yes. I do want my marriage to work; but that might not be possible.

I will post more tonight, it was an intersting day with the IC. I learned alot about my W and what was discussed when I wasn't in the room last week. My IC feels he knows the "root" cause of some of our problems and I think he may be right. I'll explain more later.


M: 33
W: 31
D: 11, 6; S:2
M: 11y T:15y (H.S. Sweethearts)
Seperated: 8/30/09
Met with Divorce Mediator 10/5/09
Divorce papers filed 11/13/09