I wish I knew the answers myself. I've been lied to, for almost 3 years. That's what I am struggling with right now.
My H wants to reconcile. At least that's what he says. We have no chance unless I find the way to forgive him. What helps, is to think of how sometimes people get vulnerable and make mistakes. What helps me, is to think of mistakes I've made during R prior to my M. I am making progress -sometimes- when I look at him as a weak, human. In my case, that's huge, I always took his honesty for granted until all this mess started. I have to "take him down" before I can look him in the eye again... K
