Is this the end of my marriage?

[LiveToLearn]

I am not sure if we be able to make things work. She is showing interest but I know if I rush things we will be right back at ground zero. She will figure it out or she won’t.

I am a great guy and a great dad. I have lots to learn but I believe that there is a lot more to this. Getting her to come home is only a small victory. I want the whole enchilada!

I did do no contact with her for about 2 weeks. It was for me and I did not care if she got mad or hurt. I never told her I was going dark, why should I? She left me, cheated on me, so I figured if I did not want to talk to her for a while it was my right

After about 10 days the phone at my work, home and cell phone were going crazy. I finally talked to her since she was worried about me. But nothing changed for her, I did not expect it to change anything. I just wanted time to be me and not worry about what to say or if I had said something wrong.

I think that your wife will be more forgiving if you just stop talking to her then if you give her your reasons and intentions in a note and make a big production out of it. In my case the note would have just looked like I was trying to manipulate the situation, since in the long run we have a daughter we are going to co parent.

She asked me out last night to dinner and has been a lot friendlier.

Trust me; she may not look confused today or tomorrow. But one day she will be confused. Until that day happens just do not do anything that will hurt your relationship as it stands. GAL, and wait, that is all you can do.

This is just the way my situation has gone. The thing I keep doing is just accepting her as she is. She is trying to find out who she is and what makes her happy. If you love her you will let her do that. If she loves you she will *probably* figure that out at some point.