Donna--finding herself #37

[MichelleLT]

Yes, he is trying to feel good about himself. Cuz even if he won't really admit it, I bet he felt guilty about not helping out when you were sick, even if he won't admit it.

So he's trying to make up for it now in a way that's safe - the kids. In a way that will generate no expectations from you other than he can be good father.

(((Donna)))

There's no point in fighting about it. It solves nothing. Let him do something nice for the kids, and let yourself grieve the fact that he doesn't do those things for you without putting them in the middle.