I think that's true though too. I get the idea about being postive and upbeat in front of them, but it seems at some point, pretending is just not enough. Everything's not ok, and at times, they need that reminder. I think this is particularly true when they are open to work on things (when they are not there yet, to be so open might push them away). He is open to working on things and seems to honestly be trying, so he should know what the issues are and be given a chance to work thru them. Now it's up to him to prove it to you...
Good goals. Now just keep an eye out for any of those baby steps. If it's applicable, maybe you could even let him know that you appreciate all the effort he is making and would like to be given a chance to see those changes in person. (so kind of open it up for him to be around you more - him iniated of course). But I think you guys went thru the hard stuff last night, so hopefully your conversations can be more positive overall now, as you kind keep it open and encouraging. Continue to give him a reason to come home...
But shoot, I really hope that isn't the case this time. If he is being this nice and 'trying to change', but has OW living w/ him now, I'm going to have to fly to Indiana and come beat him up with you. haha. But given the past, I understand your reservations. Try to give him the benefit a doubt, but do whatever you can do protect your heart. Oh, I so hope for the best on this. You're making a lot of progress or more importantly, HE, is making progress, which is the one thing we can't control. Let's pray he keeps it up.
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
