Lola, when I was struggling to detach in ...2008, I went into coping mechanisms, surpressed most of my "bad" feelings. Eeverybody was impressed by my "strength". Only now those feelings surfaced triggered by fear of opening up to H again and I keep thinking, I should have allowed that earlier. My advice to you and Michelle: dont pretend to be happy, cool etc, no matter what others tell you ("why do you care after x amount of time" for example is something I have heard numerous times). Grieve and be sad. It's the end of your M and deserves to be "grieved". Only, remember to keep your head over the water to breathe. Soon, you will be "closing" this chapter. Not sooner than when you should. You are strong. K
