Well, think about it this way. Do you want to live your life with someone who will walk away from you because of one day of "bad" behavior? (I'm not talking about abuse, obviously, just ordinary human imperfection.)
Beyond that, I know you are looking for reassurance, but I also know you are smart enough to know that none of us know the answer.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
If you are constantly worrying about what your H is thinking and doing and what ONE bad night will do then you are not DB. Not even close.
Your focus should be on you and your children as if the divorce is taking place already. If it works out then great but right now he is gone and you should live your life that way.
It's very easy advice to give, I know. I wish I would have followed it myself when so many people tried to give it to me. Instead though I was sure I knew better and essentially gave myself a nervous breakdown complete with a hospital stay due to my lupus and anxiety I had.
Well, think about it this way. Do you want to live your life with someone who will walk away from you because of one day of "bad" behavior? (I'm not talking about abuse, obviously, just ordinary human imperfection.)
Beyond that, I know you are looking for reassurance, but I also know you are smart enough to know that none of us know the answer.
Well said, Kett.
I would also point out, Britt, that this (the "oh, NOW you've done it! You've blown ANY CHANCE WE HAD!") is very much typical wayward SCRIPT. While it is usually said in conjunction with having their affair exposed, it can also come after a successful round of "fight-picking," or even just some routine faux pas on your part.
Well back to no kids for a few days. This just doesn't seem to get easier. As excited as i am to have a break from a busy busy 1 year old, and diapers and everything. I'm so sad to see them go. I miss them so much when they are gone. Thankfully I have a few shifts at work this week to get me by it. No contact with H since Monday. That doesn't seem to get easier either. As much as we have been talking lately its pulling me back to the start again. errrr...
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
I'm going to the Doctor this afternoon, as soon as I drop the kids off at the dayhome. Then I'm off to work for the evening. I will be doing some banking tomorrow and work in the evening again. Friday I work again and my parents are coming for a visit for the weekend so that will be good. I also have girls night sat night, and I'm hosting a baby shower for a good friend of mine on sunday. So lots of "me" time coming this weekend. I'm excited.
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
