Is this the end of my marriage?

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I am learning alot and may not be qualified to answer since me and my wife are still in this. But her affair did end recently, she is starting to see life again. I have been her freind and have done lots of stuff for me.

Does it look like you may be able to reconcile things?

My advice... if you want no contact. Just do not contact her. Do not answer the phone, do not reply to her emails etc. It does make you stronger and helps with the pain. You do not need to send a note, you just do it.
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Is this what you did?

Is that not being more of a jerk though? Just ignoring her? Would a letter, or at least some sort of indication as to what you are doing it better than just ignoring her?

When you have your strength back you can make a new choice as to how you want to proceed. This gives you options

This is what I want - time and space to heal and then decide what I want to do when I'm ready to be able to make the decision.

Next I do not think I would go public. I am glad I did not. I talked to people when it was appropiate and mostly have just given her space and time.

My W said, at the start, that she needed space and time and I didn't give her that (I pursued). However I now realise that she didn't want space and time at all as she had already planned to be with OM.

However I want the space and time now for myself. Since the split she really hasn't had much time and space for herself so maybe it will do her good too.

She in confused and anything you do to cheat her from her experaince of figuring out life will come back to bite you.
This is my first post so take it with a grain of salt

I appreciate your message! I'm not sure if she is confused. She doesn't talk like it but she sure does act abnormally. But then I ignore everything she says anyway and only look at her actions.