The problem is I can't ignore stuff that is affecting the kids, so that is somewhat working for him.
I don't see how that is working for him. It is just making you angry at him. His goal is to get back with you. That isn't helping him do that. It is only bringing more resentment to you. Sure, maybe it draws you into another fight, but it isn't drawing you into reconciling with him. So I wouldn't even say that is working for him for what he ultimately wants.
The problem is he refuses to show with actions that he is serious about what he wants. His actions show that he is not ready to be back with you at this time. He gives you words, but does the complete opposite of what would really help him in this situation. His actions don't back up his words.
Does he not see this? Well, dumb question, of course he doesn't see it or doesn't want to. Give him a copy of DB or DR. Sounds like he could use it.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
