Yes, I agree Kevin. He tries every tactic he can think of to manipulate, and has decided that the only thing he can use that I care about is the kids. He knows that will suck me into a fight every time. I don't care about him throwing tink in my face, so he has gone to denying that. I don't care about him moaning, groaning, guilting, spewing, so he has stopped that.
He used to manipulate me with saying he didn't want to live anymore and threatening suicide. At first I attempted to get him some help and he refused. Then I stopped letting that be a game. I was finally so mad at him one day after he had acted crazy and started his I want to die stuff that I just told him to do whatever he felt he needed to do but leave us out of it. I haven't heard that threat anymore. He's like a little kid that goes from tactic to tactic trying to see what works.
The problem is I can't ignore stuff that is affecting the kids, so that is somewhat working for him.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
