Something I forgot to mention - this morning I was talking with D18 about her plans for school etc in the next year or so. Since our separation and homes etc will affect that, all that was part of the conversation. She said WAW is going to give her a key to WAW's apartment, so she can be there when she wants. I never thought there was OM involved, but that makes it even less likely.
Or, your wife figures she'll have everyone "normalized" to her new arrangement by then.
