Perhaps it comes down to that impulse control thing you mentioned. That and a touch of knowing when boundaries are being crossed.
Perhaps there really WASN'T anything direly wrong in your R this second time around. Scary thought!!!...But comforting too
It DOES put this squarely where it belongs...on your H's shoulders.
Perhaps what you need to discuss (rather than the seemingly cheeseless tunnel of why did this one happen) is how to MAKE SURE it never happens again!!
Some people are just vulnerable at certain stressful times in their lives....some people just seem to lack that radar that tells most of us when a "friendship" is becoming inappropriate.
Tal speaks to this issue very well. It seemed to have been a problem with her H too.
