That letter from your XH should be on a WAS sticky somewhere. Amazing. He really is describing depression and PTSD extremely well there. No excuse for his actions, and how he messed up both of your lives.
I'm going out on a limb here, but his board is called DivorceBusting after all. Just some big-picture thoughts. I know the trust thing is tough, can completely understand why you'd never want to be married again. I feel the exact same way. After what happened the first time, how can you be sure RB or anyone else wouldn't do the same thing again? You can't.
My C wrote a little book called "The Shocking Truth About Trust". He defines trust as believing that the way a person treated you in the past will continue into the future.
Crap. Well, I guess I'm screwed then. I guess I want my W to NOT trust me by that definition. How is that ever recovered? How could your Ex ever recover that? I don't know.
As for the paperwork being final, I think it's just paperwork, doesn't really have any bearing on the R. But I don't have a lawyer's mind;) The important thing is that you're financially protected from whatever he might be doing, and honestly I'm envious of that.
I can tell from your posts that you may be questioning things a bit, the "now you're free, go on and have a happy life" isn't all that. He seems to be making some steps, who knows what could happen? Who knows anything in this crazy relationship thing? Is it picking someone who makes a lot of money? Common interests? It's easy for people in our situation to question everything. Surely we did something wrong, picked the wrong person. I don't think that's true for you. I'm getting there for me, but it's hard. I want this all to be my fault because then I can fix it. That's all I've got, hang in there!
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
