Longtime coming...

[Awoken]

I've reread your reply many times now, and it's sinking in.

pour the bottles down the drain. take the kids from the house to stay at your sisters when she starts drinking. refill the vodka with vinegar. MAKE A POINT THAT THIS BEHAVIOR IS NOT ACCEPTABLE.

This is what I want to do (I like the vinegar idea). I do think she'll just become a better hider. My sister lives 3 states away, but I can find a place. I've been thinking of asking HER to leave.

Dont let it get to the point that something has to give.

I've been reading many of your posts, and what you say is eye-opening.

This is what I've been worried about, but more emotionally than any physical violence. She's lashes out emotionally, but not physically. I hadn't really realized how it was getting to my children until today when my D17 told me that both her and D13 talked about W's problems. Also, I am starting to worry about driving. All these years, W has never driven drunk, (sigh, that I know of ), and has the alcohol hasn't appeared to get in the way of her job; I now know its been a primary force in our relationship and her BPD. The night of the bomb, she drove home drunk, so I'm worried about riskier behavior.