Thank you all for your answers:) I think I'm feeling a bit better now. I don't usually stay down for long, but maybe I was a bit depressed too.
pnt and twin I do understand the idea. I suppose I was just tired of having it happening LOL The kiss idea seems like a very creative way of trying to break a pattern. I usually call it the "no because I'm an onion" thing because of a story our professor told us once . Same idea, come up with the most improbable answer to something and it does work most times. I'm not sure my husband would allow me to kiss him while he was on a big tirade about how I messed up, but I've tried quite a few different versions of that before LOL Still it's he's copping mechanism I know that. He's actually good at the "attack is the best defence" thing too LOL I guess I was just really wanting not to be responsible for all bad stuff that happens to us at least for a bit so I could rest. But it gave me the blues bad. Today I took my own advice and got out my scrap book with all the good stuff happening since the affair was over. It did help out and brightned the day. Maybe it helped too that he had been noticing that I was down and even a bit detached and tried to control the irritability a bit more. I guess it's not helping much that our finances are a mess and it will take a bit to fix them again. In a way it was nice that he did quit his job so he wouldn't be in touch with her at all, but it left us without a budget and with many unpaid bills. We'll fix this though.. we did it before. I"m going beddy bye now, but will be back tomorrow, with a smile.. I'm recharged now Hugsies nigthshade
"Each and every one of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought and the gift of understanding. "
