I was thinking exactly the same thing, PnT. Impatience, chronic anxiety and anger at the betrayed S are well described coping mechanisms of unfaithful partners. The greater the anger, the lesser the guilt. Check out 'After the Affair' again, twin.
And I love Phoenix's strategy. I might even copy it
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
