besides i don't want them to do what their mom and i did, i hid my feelings from my wife in a lot of cases.
she for sure hid her feelings from all of us.
for a great relationship with a friend or whatever, the kids need to know it's ok to express their feelings to whoever and whoever is ok to express their feelings to them, not argue but reach compromises and let each person be an individual, i knew all that, unfortunately wife and i didn't do a good job for ourselves.
she didn't like it when i was an individual and their were instances i didn't like it when she was an individual and vs talking it out, i'd let mine go and she would keep her resentment inside.
i made the mistake of thinking wife was like me, things would always work things out and she was tough and forgiving like me.
now i know her being quiet got her to this point and she's not tough or forgiving like me.
