if I start dumping bottles, she'll KNOW i'm up to something. do it anyway?
pour the bottles down the drain. take the kids from the house to stay at your sisters when she starts drinking. refill the vodka with vinegar. MAKE A POINT THAT THIS BEHAVIOR IS NOT ACCEPTABLE. im sure you will hear alot of good stories at AA. maybe some folks around her can chime in.
do it anyway? YES. put your f'ing foot down. someone has to do it. these addictions are not easily broken.
I dont really talk to much about my personal life on this board anymore. But I have been in an abusive relationship for a long time, as well as a ton of other $hit she has put us through. I have dealt with the attitude, the language, punches, kicks to the head when I was sleeping, what else? a flying vase nearly hit me in the head, the carving knife incident was a classic. I filed a couple domestic violence reports. That is really kicks the last shread of manhood in the gonads going to the cops with to intervene with whats going on in your own home.
I was so wrapped up trying to resolve our marital problems that I never stood back to understand what the underlying problem actually was.
Stupid me, idiot me, I took it (like a man haha) never thinking it would go beyond me as a punching bag. Until my wife clocked my daughter in the face over some expensive hair cut and coloring I let her get and pushed her down the stairs. I hate to say I waited too long. It was that incident which should have never happened that was the straw that broke the Mr. Nice Guys's back(resolve). I packed up her belongings, even though it seemed like we were finally busting this divorce, and told her to go live with her sister until I feel she has her issues under control. She can have supervised visitation and we will plan outings and dinners as a family. But if she did not leave or was abusive in any way shape or form to my son, daugther or myself, the State of New York will get involved.
Dont let it get to the point that something has to give.
