I know I'm their support Jack, I knew it was wrong when I said it, I agree with their frustration and we're all hoping for a change of direction, knowing we can't do a darn thing about it, we just vent to eachother, but being down about it, use it as an opportunity to reinforce the faith, hope, love, time and patience part.
At the same time, this is the first time that I've kept a secret from my kids, I was always open with them, always quick to say when I was wrong and always praising their good and discussing the wrong.
I knew it was wrong when I said it, I agree with their frustration and we're all hoping for a change of direction, knowing we can't do a darn thing about it, we just vent to eachother, but being down about it, use it as an opportunity to reinforce the faith, hope, love, time and patience part.
At the same time, this is the first time that I've kept a secret from my kids, I was always open with them, always quick to say when I was wrong and always praising their good and discussing the wrong.
blah blah blah, justification of a bad choice. : ) Seriously, you're their strength, do not burden them with your problems on top of theirs and you need to mitigate theirs.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
yeah i listened to walking she was spot on, man i got a lot of issues to work thru.
that's what i'm learning and enjoying rite now, is being a knowledge sponge, while still doing the rite thing by people.
i could go off, but really what good would it do, i could ask to talk to her, but man everything is better when someone comes to you vs you going to them. That's what made me fall for her in the first place.
Wish she was sane to see what i've learned about myself and our past relationship.
That's the frustrating part, every issue she has could be corrected, if she would just get to that point.
blah, blah, blah Jack I'm a tough but sensitive son of a gun and my kids are going to learn to be open honest, admit their faults, see the otherside, learn how to communicate and how to love their spouses and children in the future.
That's one thing i do not regret, my kids know how i feel at all times and fortunately they don't hide their feelings or thoughts from me either.
now i'm not always their friend, I'm their father first, but right now when it's the 3 of us it's the 3 of us and if i'm hurting they are too and they say they are.
Now they know i'm trying for our family and they're trying for me.
Those 3 were my best friends and now we all have lost a friend, mom, wife and we're not going to hide those feelings.
besides i don't want them to do what their mom and i did, i hid my feelings from my wife in a lot of cases.
she for sure hid her feelings from all of us.
for a great relationship with a friend or whatever, the kids need to know it's ok to express their feelings to whoever and whoever is ok to express their feelings to them, not argue but reach compromises and let each person be an individual, i knew all that, unfortunately wife and i didn't do a good job for ourselves.
she didn't like it when i was an individual and their were instances i didn't like it when she was an individual and vs talking it out, i'd let mine go and she would keep her resentment inside.
i made the mistake of thinking wife was like me, things would always work things out and she was tough and forgiving like me.
now i know her being quiet got her to this point and she's not tough or forgiving like me.
