She was clearly in a low mood. Was saying stuff like "I just hope my kids still love me after this" and "I hope we are still friends after this".
Your answer was good. You might also try something like:
"I agree; I'm sure this will be difficult on them. On ALL of us."
or
"I'm sure our relationships will change; I'm not naive. Our job as their parents will be to help them get thru this in a healthy, safe way, regardless of how our relationship changes."
As for her wiping texts, well . . . . you know already.
