Is this the end of my marriage?

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(I tried to edit the above post but by the time I clicked Change Post, the maximum edit time had expired!)

Just to be clear I do not want to do the NC letter. But I feel it is the only way for me and my D to get time to get over this. And to also show my W there are consequences. So far she has had her cake (OM, new house, A, etc.) and is eating it (still has H there, possibly dangling, step-D that she can continue to play mum with).

This isn't a decision I've taken lightly but as I keep saying, I don't see any other options.

The only other option I considered was just keeping this contact going and putting up with it. If the last few weeks have genuinely been a case where she is interested (asking if I had a gf, snoopping) then it may be worth it. I don't see how that works for me or get's to my goals though.

If anybody else can suggest something that will fulfil all of this then I will be really happy to hear it.