And essentially how DB is not there to save the M - it's there to stop the D.
That's why you have to lovingly detach to the point you can walk down both paths. First goal stop all the negative feelings, step two become friends again, step three rekindle the romance and step four re-commit to the marriage.
I would look for a counsleor who is solutions based - someone trained in cognitive therapy.
Has anyone heard from Dia? She just disappeared.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.