<<we married "takers" who walked away when they took all they could out of us>>
Wow, you hit the nail on the head bnd. That is exactly how i felt. Should Kerry be looking for a giver in his next relationship? I have found mine and quite honestly it is very strange at first....
I'll second that. They were 'takers' but in most instances it wasn't blatant. It only showed up when we needed to 'take' due to emotional changes in our lives.
Then, they ran. Often to someone else who would give.
In my case, STBX's OM is simply 'there' and asks for really nothing in return. Nothing. He's a puppet.
I did have a relationship years ago with a 'giver' and it was very comfortable for a while. Other things changed so we ended up breaking up but we stayed friendly for years.
When I met STBX I thought she was a giver, and she was, to a certain extent. Just not in a long term committed relationship.
