Hey GIMA, I hear you about wanting W to want the M too. I guess you meant eventually ... and that she's gonna be putting in the work in the right direction meantime too. Can't force that, although one can hope MC will help clear her mind towards why that might be a good thing for her.
The push and pull factors, I think we've all been there, pretty normal.
Where I am, MCs are almost always fully booked for weeks (gee, what a surprise) and I think it's great you have options. The first one we went to was actually pretty good in hindsight, but I hated her back then. She was quietly trying to get me to DB and I was outraged she wasn't reeling then WAW back in.
Keeping you in my thoughts.
Thanks Deep. And, yes, I do not expect her, right now, to want to work on the M or to want me. SmileysPerson has a great post about this very issue on his thread. And essentially how DB is not there to save the M - it's there to stop the D.
Provided she is willing to consider reconciliation (for 6 months, she said no way, no how), I will keep the door open so to speak. But, while the door is open, I am not watching the doorway for her to walk back through.
