Changing Man

[Deep]

Gardener. Whoa. As in active posting compromised? Or lurking compromised?

Good that you're doing good, nonetheless .

[Gardener]

Deep,

Gardener. Whoa. As in active posting compromised? Or lurking compromised?

Lurking. Odd. just a suspicion

Good that you're doing good, nonetheless .

Physically, mentally, emotionally, financially exhausted and drained. But feeling good about myself, sitch, pending D & life beyond.. A tad bummed by being demonized to my beloved stepkids. Not taking it personally, though. If gone, they'll be back
Thanks.

[Greek]

Gonna bump this reply to Greek back up. Interested to hear what she has to say about one of my last paragraphs:
And I had to admit to myself the other day - tough to admit - I was weighing the two options wondering which one might lend itself more to an eventual reconciliation: Being gone for good or being around here and bumping into each other occasionally. I was almost embarrassed by the thought of it, but hey, there is a Divorced But Not Done Forum, right? Go figure. So, after STBXW's horrendous "revelation" the other day, am I nuts" Normal? Optimistic? Or kidding myself?

I see "Normal" here, Gardner. You love her. You don't want to divorce her. But, but, but...considering her "horrendous" BS about you sexually abusing her...reconciliation MUST entail her winning you back. You have been dissed bigger than Dallas, my friend, and you are not going to be bellying up the bar for another shot of that. She will have to repair that breach of trust first.

Sorry it took me so long to find this question. I've been sick with a cold and not reading much here. Coach has been keeping me updated

Greek

[givingitmyall]

Hope you feel better Greek.

And, sorry Gardener for the hijack, but I would love to get your take on my W's decision to go to MC. Coach is keeping me straight on how to handle things. But, your perspective would be a fantastic addition.

[dolphin_05]

Hey Gardener, thanks for pointing out about the replies/views ratio of our threads on the forum list.

Cas

[Serenity13]

(((Gardener)))

Hope you are having a wonderful day today -

How was the walk-thru?

My day is going great...

Work has been good

I have had a smile on my face most of the day, it feels weird for me since I am not a smiley person - (Probably why my family calls me the princess of darkness) lol

I have about 45 minutes left then off to Church to feed the homeless

After that I will spend some time with my boys...

I haven't spent as much time here today as I normally do and there are a couple of people I would like to check on so I will probably do that tonight.

How are you feeling today?

[Gardener]

Greek,

I see "Normal" here, Gardner. You love her. You don't want to divorce her. But, but, but...considering her "horrendous" BS about you sexually abusing her...reconciliation MUST entail her winning you back. You have been dissed bigger than Dallas, my friend, and you are not going to be bellying up the bar for another shot of that. She will have to repair that breach of trust first.

Oh, I agree, I agree. I don't love her. I love who she used to be. AND still subscribe to the belief the she started to change when abusive Dad (virtually no contact for 30) years died 4/08.

No, I might - might- remain open to reconcililiation, but I will be pursued; there is nothing and no one in her that I care to be around, let alone pursue.. And I would have to see serious evidence of attempted self-reflection, self-healing and sincere contrition before even considering to consider, as I like to put it.

Thanks, hope you're feeling better. Saw Coaches photo in the .alt today and before even looking at his face (not that I know what he looks like), I saw the drum kit and immediately said, "Coach!"

Feel better. You and your sweetie are rare, giving gems.

[brownidmom]

Gardener,

I'm curious about your feelings that you are being "lurked". Hmmmmmm...

I'm tired tonight, just wanted to check in and see how your day was.

bim

[Gardener]

Thanks, Bim. Good day. You?

Lurking is just a gut. Not going to discuss it more, here., though I have chatted (rambled on) in the alt. w/Gima I'm just going to continue to be as truthful to my self and, frankly, my version, to be honest, and an open book to myself and to you good people with honor and compassion for all - all - in my sitch. And help, encourage others when possible. And enjoy myself here!

Why else be here?

If someone in family is lurking, well, you're learning more about the good, flawed Gardener than you've ever known before. Learn and enjoy..

Good night, you on-line family, you.
See ya tomorrow.

[SpyBunny]

Hi Gardener-
Did the brokers' open house go well? Hope you had a nice day-
Bunny