Gotta Keep Trying 2

[Thinker]

I've read it written as "core hurt"

I don't think it has anything do do with time. it's been there our whole lives.

Whatever it is, it's clear that our spouses didn't cause it.

[Gardener]

Gima,
Great.Thanks for sharing this one.

[Gardener]

Gima,

Maybe it's a wound, not a void. A wound that time, and time alone, heals. I think we can, with the right medicine, speed up the process. But, it still takes time.

Yes! I think ya nailed it! (even though we all do have some holes and voids)

[The Wifey]

I've read it written as "core hurt"

I don't think it has anything do do with time. it's been there our whole lives.

Whatever it is, it's clear that our spouses didn't cause it.

Try reading I'm Okay, You're Okay. The first chapter is psycho-bable, but the rest is eye-opening. It talks about that core hurt.

To fill holes I find it helps to volunteer to help people that are less fortunate than me and focusing on how grateful I am for what I have.

[givingitmyall]

I've read it written as "core hurt"

I don't think it has anything do do with time. it's been there our whole lives.

Whatever it is, it's clear that our spouses didn't cause it.

Try reading I'm Okay, You're Okay. The first chapter is psycho-bable, but the rest is eye-opening. It talks about that core hurt.

To fill holes I find it helps to volunteer to help people that are less fortunate than me and focusing on how grateful I am for what I have.

Thanks Wifey. I will pick up that book.

And, as for helping the less fortunate, this is the season for that, isn't it? Not that that has a season. But particularly appropriate now.

[Thinker]

I haven't read this book, but have read the basics of "transactional analysis" elsewhere and have found it to be enlightening.

[givingitmyall]

Finally received a list of potential MC's from my IC. I will review them today and then provide the list to W, so she can interview/research them. We will then select a MC, and start this chapter of the book.

I found a peacefulness last evening. It's not new. It just found me again.

I find I have my own up and down with respect to W and the M. I notice that when she pulls away, I feel a pull towards her. But, when she comes closer or shows interest in me, I question whether I still want her. I do not act on either feeling. Perhaps that is the "decision to love her." Could just be a manifestation of "you don't want what you know you can have." Don't know if anyone else has experienced this - I would imagine many of you have.

Also, if anyone has any suggestions on how to approach W the best way about who our MC should be, I would love to hear them. I don't want her to feel I am pushing her to select someone off my list, and I suspect she will want to stick with her list (like I want to stick with mine).

[CityGirl]

Any chance "your list" and "her list" would have ONE of the same MC names listed?

Maybe you can both sit down and voice what you are looking for in a MC and go from there.

[Coach]

Also, if anyone has any suggestions on how to approach W the best way about who our MC should be, I would love to hear them.

"Here's who I have decided is my choice."

She wants to know more let her ask.

[givingitmyall]

Any chance "your list" and "her list" would have ONE of the same MC names listed?

Maybe you can both sit down and voice what you are looking for in a MC and go from there.

Nope. Big city - MANY MC's here.

I don't know the ones on her list. I also don't know the ones on my list. My only requirement is that we have a MC who is "pro-M." Whatever happens, happens. W is either coming back or not - and I do not think MC, alone, will bring her back.

She has to want to work on the M - quite frankly, I do not want her if she does not want to work on the M and want to be with me.