If she has nothing to hide, then she shouldn't need to worry about being spied on. The dishonest mind games indicate a total lack of respect for her marriage and her partner in that marriage. It might be useful for you to reflect on how you arrived at this point.
Puppy Dog Tails is about as good as it gets in terms of how to fight for a marriage through infidelity while maintaining your self respect. His approach is measured, methodical and effective--if you have the testicular fortitude to see it through.
I hope you have seen an attorney to be educated on your rights and responsibilities. If your wife has been cheating and manipulating, you should be prepared. Hope for the best and plan for the worst.
