Wow, I have had a hectic past few days. It started Thursday. I had to leave at 6:30 am to drive to two day conference for exceptional children. I received lots of good information. On Friday the conference ended at 12:30.
Luckily, the wedding was in the same city as the conference. How is that for timing? I met my friends at the reception hall to help decorate. The rehearsal dinner was that night. It was very nice. The next day was the wedding. The groom's mother is a dear friend of mine. Her gift to the couple was the reception, she has catered a few in the past so she is very good at those things. Our circle of friends helped her out with the reception...wow, that is a lot of work, but was very glad to do it. Everything was beautiful and the couple were radiant.
There were four of us setting up the reception so we did not attend the wedding so everything would be ready when they arrived at the hall. After the wedding one of the friend's husband told me that "the couple" were at the wedding. I braced myself and said a little prayer for strength. I did not see them when they walked in, but did see them eventually standing close to the door. That is where they remained the entire time they were there. They probably stayed about an hour. I saw perhapys 2-3 men talk to my stbxh and they were ones I did not know. Other than that "the couple" was pretty much shunned. Keep in mind there were probably 200 people there.
I went about my business of enjoying the wedding. I was surrounded by several friends. I never acknowledged the couple. My friends were amazed by my strength and told me what a lady I was to take the high road. One of my friends overheard one of stbxh's longtime friends talking about how he couldn't believe that he brought "her" to the wedding. I noticed that this particular friend had a surprised look on his face when he saw me and gave me a big hug. I never saw him talking to "the couple". I had worried that I would get emotional when I saw them together, but honestly, I can say it did not bother me that much.
It was nice that I was receiving texts from Mr.C wishing a great day during the stay. Mr. A is not as mushy as Mr C but I did receive texts from him also, lol.
I guess Mr. A did miss me though, he called me Sunday night and then last night called me three times for a total of over two hours of talking...lol. He must have really missed me!
It's been over three years since STBXH walked out. It is true that time heals. I'm still not at the total indifferent stage, but I am getting there finally!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
