I am fully aware that I am letting her cake eat. I just think it is somewhat necessary to keep things as normal as possible leading to the vacation. Whether it's wrong or right to go at all is immaterial now - we are going and I want to make it as enjoyable as possible for everyone.
The cake eating will stop in January. I promise. I am trying to limit it now.
So whether it's right or wrong is immaterial now, but you want us to take our valuable time to tell you if it's right or wrong, so you can just go ahead and do what you want to do anyway? Is that about right?
You can do what you want to do (which you're obviously going to do anyway). But if it were me, I'd be spending my last days with my wife trying to display the strongest, most confident, most desirable man I could possibly put forward. Not a weak, "gee-I-need-a-cuddle" guy.
I know you're hurting, BTM, but going all "melty man" on her is NOT going to be effective. It may make YOU feel better, in the SHORT run, but it's NOT the way to conduct yourself moving forward.
