PDT - I don't intentionally phrase or build my posts - at least not consciously
Yes, I have read both. Several times.
What I don't get is how at this point anything can make her run away faster - it's done. She's moving out December 1st and has signed a one year lease. It's all done, but the actual physical move. If you mean, it makes her more sure and makes her want to get out faster, than why does she happily accept the offer?
I might be all wrong here...but in the last 2 weeks while she is here, shouldn't I be giving her something to miss? I know...I know...a confident, decisive man. But in addition to that?
If I am all wrong, please tell me. I obviously really sucked at dbing this time around. Although, I honestly believe there was nothing I could do to prevent the separation this time. WAW was 100% convinced she needed it and that if she stayed it would only be a matter of time before our marriage was 100% done. At least, with time apart, she thinks there is a tiny possibility of reconciliation.
I am fully aware that I am letting her cake eat. I just think it is somewhat necessary to keep things as normal as possible leading to the vacation. Whether it's wrong or right to go at all is immaterial now - we are going and I want to make it as enjoyable as possible for everyone.
The cake eating will stop in January. I promise. I am trying to limit it now.
What about the sex thing? If she initiates? What about cuddling etc, if she initiates?
