Puppy, you bring up a good point, and something I am struggling with. The other guy is one of my wife's "bosses" at the bank she works at. So she will see him, not daily, but probably weekly. She made it clear that she isn't going to give up her job (though there has been a merger recently, and she might be pushed out in the next year) because she is "good at it."
I know the affair is still going on as of a week ago because I grabbed her phone and read her texts. She had been out that night for a "girls night out" and early the next morning I checked her texts, and she had cancelled her plans with "the girls," using my job (I am a doctor) as an excuse. I called her out on it (chasing, I know...) without revealing that I read the texts, and she said she baited me by sending fake texts so she could see if I had been spying on her.
We haven't brought that up since last week when it happened. I just don't feel like I know how to toe the line between getting myself a life again and chasing her (by telling her I don't want her going out anymore).
Suggestions? It feels, in my gut, like I'm simply approving of her sneakiness when I don't say anything. But it feels like I'm pushing her away if I do anything else.
