Divorced and want to reconcile...

[dday101798]

I also told him that even though I'm single now, you never know, I could meet someone that would like to have a life with me, I mean not now, because I'm not interested in a R, but in the future..and that I don't intend on being single for the rest of my life.

Uhhh, whoa, whoa. You told your XH your trying to get back THIS?!?!

Reading that, it's no wonder he didn't invite to his party. I think you need a reminder here Mar, your XH is now the WAS by your previous actions when you were in that role. I'm not sure how it all works out when the roles are completely flip flopped as I'm still learning myself, but I don't think this could have helped at all.