Spouse Suffering From Depression

[ClingingToHope]

I think I made some good points but it seemed like he was so stuck in his resentment that he wasn't even hearing me.

After we split up, I started a marriage rebuilders class -- hoping I could use what I learn with W but increasingly that hope fades.

The second class was on communication. And communication doesn't mean talking, it means listening. I've always been very well spoken. Since I was five I remember people telling me that.

So I've grown up loving to hear myself talk. With W, looking back, I was always sort of half listening, really just waiting for my opening to cut in and say something profound or to make a point.

You say you made some good points. Perhaps right now you shouldn't try to make points and just listen, listen, listen. Let him pour out his issues to you and then let him fix them on his own.