Is this the end of my marriage?

[sandi2]

I am concerned about you, P17. You feel so despart to do "something" and that you must do it immediately. You do not feel convident in the NC letter and yet you just feel that you must do some sort of action. As I told you before, you need to be sure that what you say in that letter is what you mean......and that you can stick to your guns after you've sent it. I have an uneasy feeling that you see it as a gimmick to either be the ticket to stopping your pain or else to get your W to come home. It is not an insurance that either will work. As long as she lives next door with another man, it is going to be hard to ignore and I think she may fight you on rights to see the D.....if she has any rights, IDK.

I'm just saying to make sure you feel like you are doing the right thing and don't be looking for some magic formula, b/c there is none. Sometimes it is just waiting it out and you have not wanted to do that.....you have wanted to perform some sort of action. I do agree that you need to detach, but be careful about some other things you are considering doing b/c it may cause you more hurt--than what you set out to do.