Hi all. Woke up early, H was on his way out. Said he promised a buddy at work to do the gym thing each morning for 1 week. On his way out, he asked me if I was going to be around today. I said I would and he asked me to be available for an hour to "talk". He said "just about normal things".
Im going crazy inside wondering...what its all about. Im shaking, feel ill to my stomach. We never talked in the daytime about "us" and I know he wants out. It could be financial stuff...who knows. We have not been speaking much for 2 days now. Im terrified
Questions:
- should i just be my totally normal self w/ him? Or apply the techniques i have picked up thus far? such as agreeing w/ him on all accounts etc (reverse psychology). Or, just be me what ever that is? Im so tired, scared and nervous. I dont want to screw up more.
- H agreed w/ me the other night that before we considered D, we would 1) he would go to IC, 2) I would go to IC and 3) we would finish the Imago exercises. (well, the recent text from him indicated he is not willing to do "no more Imago B.S.". Q: Should I bring this up with him today if he asks for divorce to move forward? (that he is breaking this promise? I even have a written statement that he would "finish all the exercises")
- If he brings up the divorce, should I tell him I wish for a "Controlled Separation" first? I am going to try to get that book and read details before he comes back.
I need advice. I can not think for myself right now. Thank you. Lots of prayers too. Thanks
