Partner left after 9 yrs - 18months on, reunited !

[AliSuddenly]

Thanks guys, yes, it was a shock!!! Imagine. It was a big deal we were staying with them, first time since the before the bomb.. in the same spare bed that he and Helen had stayed in a few times (he took her home for a few weekends, to meet all his friends, his Mum and then again when they did the skiing holiday)..I asked him directly if they had had sex in that bed and he said an emphatic no.

This is what I struggle with, that their relationship was so.. public. He said she met his friends because HE wanted to see them and he didnt want her to come home a few times, but she insisted, or invited herself and he weakly relented. I dont really believe that. Like he said she finished with her bf for him.. but that was apparently in March/April 2008 but he says they didnt get together until early August!?

I am feel wound up about her, wierdly, perhaps jealous? But I cant load it on his depressed shoulders. We barely spoke about the photograph, but he was very supportive. He keeps telling me he loves me.

Last night he told me he felt "sad and unhappy". I was mortified as we were snuggled up having a lovely evening when he said that. How can that be ?? He said, its not to do with me, thats separate, he knows he loves me and is happy to be with me, but doesnt feel happy in himself or his life. That its hard to explain, but thank god for me, in fact "I'd be lost without you". I said I would be lost without him too! That it really wasnt possible to him anymore than I already do. He said that was beautiful. I realised I will always worry his depression will make him leave me again, but when I said that he got very upset and really doesnt like me feeling in any way worried or insecure and that I shouldnt.

So she IS gone, vanished, thank god. But his depression isnt going away (but isnt as bad as 2007-8)