Stay the course. Even if you can't fully put your finger on what you are doing it is working b/c it is called *attitude*. Keep that attitude up. H sees it, clear as crystal.
Discouraging that after this many years I still can't figure out what is working OR what is NOT working! Something feels off since H came home from his weekend trip. He seems too nice, almost forced nice. It's just weird, and I can't put my finger on it either but it's not right in my gut. I hate that feeling....
BT, would you send a blanket of patience please?
FIB, kat, one of my 180's has been to do nothing. It is so very hard for me not to try and be the driver. I still vividly remember a few comments from H in these last few years. 1 - "you always have to rush in and save the day" and 2 - "you always push for more". Remembering those statements made by a very angry H do cause me to hang back rather than push.
Remember the old jingle 'the best part of waking up is Folgers in your cup'? One morning that came to mind as I opened a new can of coffee and got that whiff of fresh coffee smell. mmmmm. But better than that was H in my bed before coffee, he climbed in with me early one morning. That too is a 180 for me to wait for him on his own instead of asking or begging. Of course what I don't know is what he is thinking - doesn't she want me in bed with her? she doesn't ask, I won't go. Aw heck, who knows!!
Off to my last official show for this season this weekend. Should be extra fun because my sis is coming to meet me there and hang out.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Something feels off since H came home from his weekend trip. He seems too nice, almost forced nice. It's just weird, and I can't put my finger on it either but it's not right in my gut. I hate that feeling....
Been there, done that. In retrospect....oh....nevermind. Only you can understand what that means. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
It's good to see things progressing. Even though we can't see why things are happening, they are moving. Sometimes we just need a little faith. When you step back and look at things from a bit of a distance, you can see the great changes. This is awesome. Stick with it and do what seems to be working. I'm really glad to see him finding you and wanting to talk..to me this is huge.
That is wonderful!! As for H maybe he is doing some DB of his own...keep running through the actions until they become your own sort of thing. It is another move in the right direction. This man certainly moves slower than a turtle wrapped in honey!!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
CONGRATULATIONS!