I've asked W if we could postpone it, and she asked why. I said I didn't want to do it on my birthday, and she was ok with it.
I also told her this afternoon about the "who will be his father" part, and she apologised. She said she always tells him that I'll be there for him, and he can call me anytime, but she said she will make sure he knows that i'll always be his dad. She didn't seems upset at all that our son thinks he is loosing his father which really annoyed me. Thats a terrible thing for a son to think, but she showed no emotion.
She asked if I could make his room at my parents place a bit more homely, so it seems more stable, cause he has been asking about where he will live when he stays with me. I said I would.
The priest that I have been talking to also called me this afternoon. He asked if anything had happened. I explained what she had said about being happier without me. He doesn't believe she knows what she really wants yet. He said maybe she thinks she just wants to live the single life and have fun I said either way, she has said it, and I have to respect that.
I agree, there isn't going to be a good way to tell our son, and I will look into it to see what he needs from me when we tell him.
