What's bugging me is, in large part, WAW's attitude. I mean, she called me an *sshole this evening because I'm "the cruelest person she's ever met" and won't "treat her nicely." And what is it that makes me cruel? I haven't forgiven her for her affair. Which ended. 2-1/2 months ago. So what's the big whippee-doo? You know, get over it and stuff.
And how, specifically, am I not treating her "nicely?" By saying mean things like "you had an affair." And by not wanting to chit-chat on the phone.
To this day she has this infuriating sense of entitlement that has been characteristic of the entire process since Day One. Maybe "entitlement" isn't the right word -- this sense that somehow it's MY job to get on board with HER decision and its repercussions and effects.
Get this -- she blamed ME for the fact that because SHE decided to move out, she had to buy a new house, new furniture, a refrigerator, etc. etc. Now there was never any consideration of renting, say, or crashing at a friend's house. Naaaah -- we went straight from "Hi, welcome back from your trip" to "I want a divorce" to "and I'm moving out and buying a new house for my freedom" -- yet magically it's my fault that, when you buy a new house for your freedom, you have to fill it with stuff.
From there we'll go directly back to the not-so-subtle attacks on spousal support: "I'm a grown up -- I can take care of myself" and Real Men would never take a dime from their Walkaway Wayward Wives and...
Yet when I point out that there's a great job opportunity for me, but it will require that I relocate by a considerable distance, but that the earnings will wipe out any requirement she could conceivably have for paying support: "Oh, so you're going to abandon your kids -- nice. Well, they'll just be raised by an au pair because I'm not stopping my work."
Oh, and that roast I made last week so the kids and I would have something to eat for a couple days? Yeah -- did that to show her up. Because I know she can't cook.
