can pursuing a WAS be a 180?

[pearlharbr]

Ok, here's another question to think on:

Do you want to be someone's fallback option?

Here's the reality: he is done with the R at this point. You cannot control who he wants to be with. What you can do is work on yourself and learn how to make yourself happy on your own.

Have you gotten a new look to go with the weight loss? Show off that new figure! Try a new style just because you can. What about a new haircut? Several of my DB friends got sassy shoes and we compared notes on those.

Then take your new hot looking self out and turn some heads. It's a great way to jump start rebuilding your self esteem.