It is funny you mentioned a OW. He has become good friends with one of his employees at work. He says there is nothing going on except just a friendship. However she know that we our having maritial issues because he has confided in her. He never gave me any indication there was ever a problem in the marriage; he has become a total jerk since he told me.This OW will text him after hours and they sometimes go out to lunch togeter.
Well, there you go. She may not be your sole marital PROBLEM, but make no mistake -- she IS your immediate OBSTACLE.
I'm still not hearing what YOU want, at least not a realistic view of what you want, considering the bomb your husband has dropped on you. I hear a lot of fantasy and wishful thinking, but I don't hear a plan of what YOU want in there.
It's not easy, I know. But you need to try to wrest control of YOUR life from your H here, and begin to assert your own wants, hopes, dreams and desires, and laying out some boundaries of personal integrity. You sound very co-dependent to me. I know, cuz I was too.
