Newcomer, want to keep my hope alive!

[BigJohn]

IWITW,

Just catching up on your sitch and I gotta tell you, I'm pissed off about how you were treated in court. That's horse$h*t!!!! If I had the time and was independently wealthy, I'd fly out to Mass in a heartbeat and help you open up a can of wuppa$$ on these people! What a friggin screw job!

I hope you have been hitting the gym to get rid of all the stress and anger you must be feeling. Whatever happens, you can't let this crap eat you up. For what it's worth, here are my thoughts on current events in your sitch:

1. Remain skeptical. Don't accept as gospel what the court and the Ls are telling you. Independently verify that there are no work arounds, loopholes or other conventional (or unconventional) means available to you that may allow for a more reasonable amount of alimony and child support.

2. Evaluate your L. What was his level of engagement in court? Was he aggressively fighting for you or just sitting there like a useless lump of $h*t? If his performance wasn't at least an "8" on a scale of 1-10 yesterday in court, why not? Hold that guy accountable!

3. Google "Father's Rights". There are several organizations out there that have resources and coaching available at a fraction of what a D L charges. (I contacted one of these myself for additional ideas and help in my sitch.)

I've got to run for now. Hang in there. I check in later.