Trusting...my little D screamed and cried when STBXH moved out--she was inconsolable.
While I will always believe my intentions were good, I notice that since I am not hovering, "encouraging," and essentially interfering with their relationship, it has, per the way Michelle describes, forced H to step up. Although he still does not offer to spend more time with her than is required of him, I just have some relief that they have a relationship.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D